Sex Hari Ini

Sex Hari Ini

Terilhami albumnya SID yang kedua (pertama untuk major labelnya) saya jadi bertanya2 pada diri sendiri...
Sex Hari Ini! Ada apa dengan SHI? Hahahaa....sebenarnya ndak ada yang penting seh... cuman tadi pagi mbaca artikel tentang anak2 perempuan yang dilacurkan.

Saya bukannya mau bilang kalo orang tua di anak itu bejat ataupun terlaknat. Maaf bung, ini bukan forum untuk menjudge orang itu bersalah atau benar...

Saya nulis ini hanya karena terdorong, rasa kasihan pada anak2 yang telah dilacurkan itu..

Siapakah yang bersalah? Saya tak tau dan mungkin tak akan ambil pusing dengan persoalan itu. Tapi yang jelas saya melihat konskuensi sosial ekonomi yang terpuruklah penyebab adanya kasus anak2 yang telah dilacurkan oleh orang tuanya tersebut.

Sekarang masalahnya adalah bagaimana caranya agar aparat sebagai kepanjangan tangan dari pemerintah tak hanya menangkapi anak2 yang dilacurkan tersebut saja tetapi juga memberikan solusi atas berbagai persoalan yang melatarbelakangi fenomena sosial itu. That's the point, guys...!

Sex Hari Ini

Sex Hari Ini

Terilhami albumnya SID yang kedua (pertama untuk major labelnya) saya jadi bertanya2 pada diri sendiri...
Sex Hari Ini! Ada apa dengan SHI? Hahahaa....sebenarnya ndak ada yang penting seh... cuman tadi pagi mbaca artikel tentang anak2 perempuan yang dilacurkan.

Saya bukannya mau bilang kalo orang tua di anak itu bejat ataupun terlaknat. Maaf bung, ini bukan forum untuk menjudge orang itu bersalah atau benar...

Saya nulis ini hanya karena terdorong, rasa kasihan pada anak2 yang telah dilacurkan itu..

Siapakah yang bersalah? Saya tak tau dan mungkin tak akan ambil pusing dengan persoalan itu. Tapi yang jelas saya melihat konskuensi sosial ekonomi yang terpuruklah penyebab adanya kasus anak2 yang telah dilacurkan oleh orang tuanya tersebut.

Sekarang masalahnya adalah bagaimana caranya agar aparat sebagai kepanjangan tangan dari pemerintah tak hanya menangkapi anak2 yang dilacurkan tersebut saja tetapi juga memberikan solusi atas berbagai persoalan yang melatarbelakangi fenomena sosial itu. That's the point, guys...!

Initiative for Reproductive Health in Asia 1

The EC/UNFPA Initiative for Reproductive Health in Asia (RHI) coversseven countries in South and South East Asia. It targets populations withvery diverse reproductive health (RH) needs and, therefore, uses a wealthof different approaches. Altogether, the RHI consists of 42 projects, withmore than 90 stakeholders. In addition, networks set up by individualprojects enlist the collaboration of at least 100 community-based organisations(CBOs).For each country programme, a “country focus” was selected, takinginto account the country’s most urgent RH needs, the comparativeadvantage of civil society organisations and the recommendations ofUNFPA, which were endorsed by the local advisory group, where existing.As a result three different country focus areas were defined. In Bangladesh,the five projects aim to improve the quality of RH care, in particularthat of clinic-based RH services. The programmes in Cambodia, the LaoPeople’s Democratic Republic (PDR), Sri Lanka and Viet Nam all focuson providing reproductive and sexual health (R&SH) information andservices to young people and adolescents. The projects in Nepal and Pakistanconcentrate on strengthening community based RH information andservices.This report summaries a selection of some of the lessons learned,best practices and success stories resulting from the experience of overthree years of implementation of the RHI in the seven countries.

Quality of Care (QoC) in BangladeshThe RHI Bangladesh chose to focus its intervention on the delivery of acomprehensive package of RH services in urban under-served-areas, witha special emphasis on quality of care (QoC) and clinical contraception.The projects are designed to effectively complement and contributeto the implementation of the Health and Population Programme of theGovernment of Bangladesh (GoB), for which this is an area of majorconcern. The RHI in Bangladesh has addressed QoC in a holistic manner,targeting QoC within the clinical and non-clinical context of RH services,as well as within the context of overall management of the respectiveprojects, building organisational capacity at the same time. To ensureconsistency, both in the overall approach and in the identification of clinicaland non-clinical aspects within all projects, a QoC group was formed,composed of participating NGOs.

Main Lessons learned:

• Quality of Care increases client satisfaction

• To achieve Quality of Care, choices need to be made between theadaptation and new development of protocols and guidelines

• The process of improving Quality of Care is usually lengthy andshould be uninterrupted

• Quality of Care increases client attendance

Quality of Care increases client satisfaction: In Bangladesh, providershave a reputation for not treating clients well. For example, poor communitymembers were hesitant to visit clean and well decorated clinics,assuming that the services were not meant for them or would be tooexpensive. The RHI programme tried to change this by introducing RHservice protocols and by training the service providers on how to behavetowards and communicate with clients. Clients were then asked aboutthe conduct of service providers during exit interviews, which showed anincrease in client satisfaction. At the same time, clients were educatedin the type of care they should expect.To achieve Quality of Care, choices need to be made between theadaptation and new development of protocols and guidelines: The availabilityof standard protocols and guidelines for clinical services, whichwere developed by the GoB in collaboration with NGOs saved time and resources. In addition, the adaptation thereof also contributed to an internallycoherent and homogenous approach to family planning and RHservices in Bangladesh.

The process of improving Quality of Care is usually lengthy andshould be uninterrupted: Improving QoC is a labour-intensive processthat requires time, effort and motivation. This holds particularly true forbehavioural change, which is necessary if a better understanding of theclient situation is to be achieved. Service providers need encouragementto see the value in using RH service protocols and giving time to communicatewith clients. Close monitoring and supervision is required, aswell as regular refresher training to sustain quality and to compensatefor the dropout of service providers.Quality of Care increases client attendance: Investing in QoC pays offin the end. The improved management of clinics, service delivery procedures,behaviour of service staff towards clients, as well as more cleanliness,have led to a substantial increase in clients (between 19% and 48% withinone year). For example, one of the RHI project hospitals expanded theirfacilities from ten beds to 35 beds and also introduced blood bank services,while offering daily RH services, including family planning. As a result,the number of total services rendered increased from 23,861 in 2000to 35,527 in 2001.

But how to choose...?

But how to choose...?

1. Get as much information as you can about sexuality, from reliable sources. For example from teachers, experts in sexuality or from books. Not from porn magazines or porn movies. Much informaton from those types of sources is wrong.

2. Once you have enough information, decide what sort of behavior you want to choose. And be ready to accept these risks. If you are not ready, why force it?

3. Do you feel wrong doing it? Do you feel comfortable, do you enjoy it? For example with masturbation, if you are unsure about whether it fits in with your values, you can read books on the rules of your particular religion, or ask experts. So that we don't feel sinful we should avoid behavior which is in conflict with our values.

4. Think about how the community view things. We should consider the social risks if our behavior does not follow societal norms. We should consider if our sexual behavior has a negative effect on other people or on our surrounding, or will create a conflict of values inour environtment.

5. What if our parents know about our sexual behavior? We also need to consider our parents advice.

6. For those how already have a boyfriend or girlfriend, discuss your limits, and their limits, with them. So nobody will pushed into something.

That's it! Hope it was useful. After you have finished reading it, please tell your friends about this blog. Maybe you have a friend or relative who will need it.

Bye..!

how to 'relax'?

You probably agree that urges need releasing. There are two basic choices. Let's see what they are:
1. Releasing urges into other activitiesi.e: No sexual behavior
We can also call this 'channeling'. Sexual desire is rerouted by doing other (non-sexual) activities. For example, doing things with friends, joining organizations, developing hobbies, or taking part in sports. Thus our time, energy, and concentration are taken up with these activities. This takes our mind away from our sexual urges. Or maybe for some, sleeping is the answer. As long as you really sleeping. Maybe you have your own way of redirecting your sexual energy. As long as it's positive, go for it.
2. Releasing urges through sexual behaviorReleasing urges through sexual behavior can be broken down further...a. Doing it aloneFor example, fantasizing or masturbationb. Doing it with someone elseFor example, holding hands, kissing, hugging, flirting, sexual intercourse, etc. These activities are done with a boyfriend/girlfriend, a friend, a sex worker, or others.
It's not easy though. Not everyone is okay with doing the things listed above.
So how we control our sexual desires?Be patient...if there is a problem then there is a solution right? We can manage our sexual desire. We know that sexual desire can be released or channeled in a number of different ways. We should also be aware each way has its risks. Positive and negative features. People look at the same sexual behavior in different ways.
ok, let's get into it!Behavior Positive Negative
Not released No feeling of sin Not 'cool' No risk of pregnancy Society approves
Holding hands Safe Bored No risk of pregnancy Not enjoyable Society approves
Kissing No risk of pregnancy Ashamed if people know Romantic Feeling of sin Enjoyable Can transmit disease
Petting Satisfaction Risk of pregnancy Small risk of pregnancy Have to be responsible More 'cool' Have to find place to do it Can get addicted to it
Sexual intercourse Can achieve climax Risk of pregnancy Many variation Virginity is lost Feeling of sin Risk of sexually transmitted diseases Can get addicted to it
Masturbation No risk of pregnancy Feeling of sin Satisfaction No risk of sexually transmitted diseases
This is description of the positives and negatives associated with various choices of ways to release sexual desire.

..horny.....?

"Hey, wake up!" Anto, startled, realized his classmate Ferdi was nudging him. "At recess, I
want to show you something!" Ferdi continued. "What? What is it? It better be good, startling
me like that?" ask Anto. But Ferdi wouldn't give details. "Mrs. Mar is watching us
...shhhh..."
When the bell rang, Anto and Ferdi made off to a corner of the school yard. Ferdi took out a
pack of cards from his pocket, split them, and gave one bunch to Anto. "Carefull, make sure
nobody sees them!" he cautioned. That made Anto curious. Anto start looking at each of the
cards... "Hey where'd you get this?" he asked Ferdi. his heart started beating faster. The
cards were fill of porn pictures.
When Anto got home from school, he went straight into his room and closed the door. He got
out the cards and started looking at the pictures. He didn't feel completely satisfied, as he
was lying on his beed staring at eachof the pictures. He was feeling more and more tense. He
checked again that his door was closed and locked. Anto sarted to take off his school
uniform, not being able to control the urges he felt. He feld tense...afraid...ashamed...he
felt his heart beating and the....
Eh, don't be shocked with this story, many people have similar experience. It's though if you
are feeling "horny". It makes us confused...doesn't it? Some people feel arrogrant, some have
inappropriate behavior, some fantasize, some just can't concentrate....
What is 'horny'?Feeling horny is the same as feeling sexual desire or sexual urges. Do you often feel horny?
That's normal. Especially for young people. People say that young blood bring wild swings,
including in love. Right question.
This is because as we enter adolescence, our sexual organ is maturing. This is related to the
influence of sex hormones. Boys are influenced by testosterone, and girls by estrogen and
progesterone.
Outwards signs are 'wet dream' for boys and 'menstruation' for girls. After that we are more
aware of sexual sensations we experience. Boys will get an erection if they are stimulated.
For girls, the hormones can cause an increase in sexual urges during ovulation or during her
fertile period. Boys and girls both have sexual desire of about the same strength. ANd in
fluctuates, sometimes we don't feel it much at all, and sometimes we feel horny.
The hormones which affect sexual desire also effect the nerves which control emotions. This
makes us sexually interested in other people, wanting to touch, kiss, hug, etc. This is aimed
at achieving sexual satisfaction. Behavior which is directed at achieving sexual satisfaction
or sexual enjoyment is called sexual behavior. Anto masturbating in the story, for instance.
He feels the sexual desire, and he choose masturbation in order to achieve sexual
satisfaction.

Indonesia Planned Parenthood Association (IPPA) was established on 23 December 1957 as a pioneer on Planned Parenthood in Indonesia.
There were two important words used as the basic philosophy for the organization and program development : family and parenthood. Family is still believed as a main pillar for achieving the wellbeing society, and parenthood is responsible for the development of family members.
Along with the society changes, it is realized that there has been changes on parenthood and family function. It is founded that the responsibility of parents in the family is multi dimensional. Then, in 1990's it was agreed that parent's responsibility in the family at least covers the dimensions of child birth, health, education, wellbeing, and the future of the family.
Based on that philosophy, decided that IPPA's mission is to struggle the acceptance and practice of the responsible family planning in Indonesian family through the program and networking development and society empowerment on population issues especially on reproductive health one.
Reproductive health for youth is the main priority of IPPA, aside from other priority such as the qualified reproductive helath services, gender inequality, and organization strengthen.
This main priority is based on the fact that the need of reproductive health information and services are limited. By the year of 2000 the number of youth (15-24 y.o) will increasing more and more and reach 43.6 million. That is why the Youth's need of reproductive health is getting bigger.
Youth need knowledge and understanding about reproductive health to overcome the problems and motivate responsible behavior so that unwanted pregnancy, unsafe abortion,STDs including AIDS among youth can be decreased.